10 Reasons We Are Different
How is our approach different?
Calm Christian Parenting is NOT the only way to parent your kids—just like there isn’t just one church or denomination that honors Scripture and God’s nature in any community. But our approach is unique and if this resonates with you, we’d be honored to help you.
1) We spend A LOT of time helping parents change (not just kids).
How can you teach your children to control themselves…when you constantly yell, scream, lecture and threaten them? Especially on the way to church?! How do you expect your child to treat you with respect when you undermine your authority with your own tantrums? The quickest way to change your child’s behavior… is to first change your own.
We all know the obedience Scriptures by heart, but tend to ignore Paul’s admonition that fathers not provoke their children to anger. There is a disconnect in most homes. How many kids get sent to therapy, when in reality it’s the parents who need help calming down?
2) We show you how to stop power struggles…by controlling yourself.
Your anxiety, perfectionism, unrealistic expectations and resentment cause 80% of the power struggles and defiance. Through your own tone and body posture, you can create either a confrontation…or a conversation.
3) Parents should not control their children.
God doesn’t control you and make you do things. Neither should you. It’s not your job to “make” your kids tow the line and solve their problems. We teach children to control their own emotions, attitudes and behavior. Self-discipline is the best discipline.
We all love Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go…” The problem is that our anxiety often causes us to train our children in the way WE want them to go. I know, the truth hurts!
4) We like and prefer strong-willed children.
A strong will gets your Savior to the cross. A strong-willed child, using his God-given gifts and passions with vision and a larger purpose, will change the world. These can be the most responsible children on the planet. We’ll show you how.
5) We get to the root of the issue.
If you only react to your child’s outward behavior with an escalating series of consequences and punishment, it won’t work. That’s why complicated charts, point systems and threats never work. Lying, stealing, hitting siblings and most behaviors that concern you are outward manifestations. You have to address the inward heart issue causing the behavior. That’s what we do.
6) We build your relationship AND the character traits you really want.
How many parents have destroyed their relationships in their quest for a “well-behaved” or “obedient” child who then rebels? That’s not going to happen here. Of course we want respectful children. But isn’t your real goal to raise merciful, compassionate, wise, steadfast, purposeful, servant leaders? That’s how we describe Jesus, after all.
7) We help families with special needs.
We get kids with ADD, ADHD, OCD, ODD, Aspergers, Autism, Anxiety, Sensory Processing Disorder, Attachment Disorders, etc. inside and out. 1,500 of them lived with us. You have a friend here who understands your unique struggles…and exactly how to help.
Special note for churches: An entire generation of families do not come to church because they cannot put their children in Sunday School or, sadly, because they are judged. We can train your staff and Christian Education department how to become experts in helping these kids. The church must take up this cause.
8) We give you practical, step-by-step instructions.
We’ve shown 200,000 parents and leaders exactly what to do, what to say and how to say it…in every challenging situation. You’ll love it because it’s simple to incorporate into your busy life.
9) We deal with nasty issues others ignore.
Parents struggle with adultery, pornography, addictions, depression, disorders, emotional abuse and spousal intimidation—but are afraid to ask for help for fear of being judged. So these issues get swept under the table. Not here. This is a safe place. We’re comfortable with humanity because Jesus was. Come as you are is not just a slogan here.
10) We break generational patterns.
You have probably said, “Oh no, I sound just like my own mother!” Men repeat their father’s mistakes in using fear and intimidation. Just applying new parenting techniques isn’t enough. We must change who we are. We are going to change your family tree…so your children don’t have to struggle with guilt, yelling and anxiety like you have.
Ready to begin?
Kirk Martin can personally mentor you through our products. RENEW YOUR MIND NOW. Today is the day you change yourself and your family…now and for generations.
Call Brett at 888-506-1871 or email Brett@CalmCPU.com at anytime. He can help you identify the specific solution that works for you and your budget.